I feel the need, the need to breed
What's a breeding kink? And what isn't.
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I’m in a writers group that meets on Monday nights. It’s a safe space for us to read each other’s work, give notes, and gossip about our lives. This week, our zoom was four people from very different backgrounds talking about something that’s irking us—what’s with the trend of famous men who want to have a dozen+ children?
Recently, a good friend was telling me about one of her sexual adventures. Before the man who she brought home climaxed, he whispered that he wanted to “breed her.” She was scared that this relative stranger actually wanted to impregnate her, but that wasn’t the case.
A breeding kink is a strong attraction to the idea of getting (or getting someone else) pregnant. It may involve cumming into a partner (“breeding them”) although it can also be rooted in role play or fantasy. The important aspect of this kink is that it doesn’t actually involve getting someone pregnant. Sometimes it’s the risk of a pregnancy that’s appealing to someone with a breeding kink. This differs from a pregnancy fetish (also known as maiesiophilia or maieusophoria), which eroticizes a pregnant person.
A breeding king is different from religions and movements that encourage breeding as many children as possible. There are many examples of this ideology in fundamentalist groups and one example is the Quiverfull movement, followed by Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, known for ugly clothes and the reality TV show 19 Kids and Counting. The movement follows strict gender roles, the women wear modest clothes, shun birth control, and are encouraged to have as many kids as possible, based on Psalm 127: "Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them."
Men who want to create a bunch of children in their own image also don’t necessarily have a breeding kink. This is definitely the case of Dr. Donald Cline, the fertility doctor who committed fraud when he used samples of his own sperm with patients who were struggling to conceive. He’s been confirmed as the biological father of 94 doctor-conceived offspring, even though he wouldn’t have even been approved as a donor in his own practice based on having an auto-immune condition. More than 50 fertility doctors in the United States have been accused of fraud related to donating sperm. Holy shit.
It might be fun to say that Elon Musk has a breeding kink, like some publications have, but his philosophy is deeper, too (and he also likes having the actual kids, not just taking the risk!). He spoke to Tucker Carlson in 2023 and expressed disdain for birth control. His pro-natalist beliefs have an overlap with eugenics, and there was even a report that he was offering people his sperm at dinner parties (he denied this). Elon has been explicit that “smart” people need to be having more kids, and Elon’s father suggested that having babies should be more like breeding horses. Of course, there’s no better form of birth control than driving a Cybertruck.
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